INSTANT ACCEPTANCE
a method of achieving inner peace
Essay
December 9, 1977
derived from the book by Ken Keyes
THE HANDBOOK TO HIGHER CONSCIOUSSNESS
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Whenever we are irritated, or angry, or anxious
or fearful, or tense, or threatened, or resentful, or
bored, or jealous, it is because our bodies and nervous
systems have been "programmed" to respond with those
feelings whenever certain events occur to us. That is
an event occurs in the outside world, and we react in a
programmed way with a particular emotion. Whether this
programming has been done consciously or unconsciously
or whether it has been done to us by outside events
does not matter; what matters is that we can change
that programming. We can feel acceptance instead of
resentment, love and caring instead of irritation and
anger, calm instead of anxiety, assurance instead of
fear, inner peace instead of tension or threat, and joy
instead of boredom or jealousy.
The "instant reprogramming" method is based on the insight
that we don't need to feel all these emotions
of tension, irritation, and rejection, whether towards
others or towards ourselves. It's all right to feel
them, because that's our programming at the moment; but we
don't HAVE to, and by recognizing that we can free ourselves
from them. This process may have to be repeated many times
before any emotion is fully reprogrammed; but in every case
it can bring immediate calm and peacefulness no matter
what is happening.
The method is actually quite simple and specific. For
example, if someone does something which causes us to
have feelings of anger, we can think to ourselves, I
don't NEED to be angry or annoyed or resentful; it's all
right but I don't HAVE to. If someone or some situation
threatens us in some way, or makes us have feelings of
fear or anxiety, we can say to ourselves, I don't NEED
to be FEARFUL; maybe I need to get away from here but I
don't need to be in a state of fear. If someone is
involved with someone we love in a way which causes us
to have feelings of jealousy, we can think, I don't
need to be jealous; everyone is a conscious being
and I can't really be hurt by their experiencing love
and caring, so I don't NEED to be jealous. And in general
in any situation where we feel uptight or upset in any way
we can say to ourselves, I don't NEED to be uptight or
upset, it's not FORCED on me by the situation, and this
can immediately have a calming effect on us, enabling us
both to accept the situation, free ourselves from our
programming, and love everyone and everything around us.
The method will only work if we actually believe
that we don't need to be in these tense or unhappy
emotional states. If we think that we have to
experience anger or jealousy or boredom, then we just
reinforce our old programming and we will continue to
feel those emotions whenever the outside (or inside)
conditions trigger those emotions. If we think that
expressing anger or resentment or any other emotion is
good for us, then expressing those emotions
reinforces having those emotions. But ir we can
see clearly that we are not forced to have those
emotions, that is, they are not inevitable in the
way that sweating or hunger or yawning are, and if we
keep that in mind every instant, we can free ourselves
from those emotions.
It also helps to recognize that talking about our emotions
is different from expressing or directing negative
emotional energy towards others. It helps us to see
the programming which we have, and to accept it And it
helps others to 3ee us as we are and not as we pretend
to be, and it helps all of us to see the oneness which
we all share. So this method does not mean repressing
or suppressing emotions, merely seeking to accept and
reprogram them. This method also explains why it is
possible to free ourselves from negative emotions without
losing the ability to feel positive emotions. Any emotion
disappears only as we reprogram it, and we will continue
to feel enthusiasm and excitement and happiness and joy
and inner peace and love unless we try to reprogram them
also.
The beauty of this method is that you can practice it
all the time, and it does not require any special training
or meditation periods, and it can be fun while you are
doing it.
(originally published under the name of John Fitz)